Table of contents for Building a parenting agreement that works : how to put your kids first when your marriage doesn't last / by Mimi E. Lyster.

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	I	Introduction
A.	Make Your Own Custody Decisions If Possible	I/2
B.	What If We Need Outside Help?	I/3
C.	Balancing Parenting and Financial Issues	I/3
D.	Why This Book Is Unique	I/4
E.	A Word to Skeptics	I/5
F.	What If You Just Want to Fight?	I/5
G.	Icons Used in This Book	I/7
		Part I	Getting Started
	1	Taking Stock of Your Situation
A.	You Are Not Alone	1/2
B.	Keep Your Parenting Plan Focused on Your Children	1/2
C.	It Gets Easier Over Time	1/3
D.	Learn How to Negotiate	1/4
E.	If the Other Parent Is Absent	1/5
F.	If There Is Violence or Abuse in the Family	1/5
	2	An Introduction to Parenting Agreements
A.	What Parenting Agreements Cover	2/2
B.	Advantages of Parent-Negotiated Agreements	2/2
C.	Goals of a Successful Parenting Agreement	2/3
D.	Parenting Agreements and Custody	2/5
	3	Getting Organized
A.	Organize and Review Documents	3/2
B.	Completing the Worksheets	3/3
C.	Sample Worksheets	3/4
	4	How to Negotiate a Parenting Agreement
A.	Knowing What You Need and Want	4/3
B.	When Conflict Gets in the Way 	4/4
C.	Using Effective Negotiation and Problem-Solving Strategies	4/9
D.	Breaking Through Impasses	4/12
E. 	Knowing Where to Get Help and Support	4/16
		Part II	Your Parenting Agreement
	5	Building Your Agreement
A.	Where to Begin	5/2
B.	Cooperate! Cooperate! Cooperate!	5/3
C.	Get Outside Help	5/3
D.	Keep Your Agreement Current	5/4
	6	Basic Elements
A.	Issue 1: Where Our Children Will Live	6/3
B.	Issue 2: Medical, Dental, and Vision Care	6/10
C.	Issue 3: Disparaging Remarks	6/12
D.	Issue 4: Consistency in Raising Children	6/12
E.	Issue 5: Holidays	6/13
F.	Issue 6: Education	6/15
G.	Issue 7: Insurance	6/19
H.	Issue 8: Making Decisions	6/21
I.	Issue 9: Resolving Disputes	6/23
J.	Issue 10: Labeling the Custody Arrangement	6/26
	7	Finishing Touches
A.	Issue 11: Exchanging Information	7/3
B.	Issue 12: Child Care	7/5
C.	Issue 13: Special Occasions and Family Events	7/7
D.	Issue 14: Vacations	7/8
E.	Issue 15: Outside Activities	7/9
F.	Issue 16: Transporting the Children	7/10
G.	Issue 17: Improving Transition Times	7/11
H.	Issue 18: Maintaining Contact	7/13
I.	Issue 19: Grandparents, Relatives, and Important Friends	7/15
J.	Issue 20: Psychiatric and Other Mental Health Care	7/16
K.	Issue 21: Religious Training	7/17
L.	Issue 22: Surname	7/18
M.	Issue 23: Treating Each Child as an Individual	7/19
N.	Issue 24: Separating Adult and Parenting Issues	7/21
O.	Issue 25: Making Changes	7/22
P.	Issue 26: Making Substantive Changes to the Agreement	7/24
Q.	Issue 27: Explaining the Agreement to Your Children	7/24
	8	Serious Issues
A.	Issue 28: Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, and Child Neglect	8/2
B.	Issue 29: Alcohol or Drug Abuse	8/6
C.	Issue 30: Undermining the Parent-Child Relationship	8/8
D.	Issue 31: Denying Access to the Children	8/9
E.	Issue 32: If Extended Family Members or Close Friends Are Fueling the Dispute	8/10
	9	Special Circumstances
A.	Issue 33: Moving	9/3
B.	Issue 34: When Parenting Styles and Values Differ	9/7
C.	Issue 35: When a Parent Needs to Develop Parenting Skills	9/9
D.	Issue 36: When Parents Have New Partners	9/9
E.	Issue 37: If Our Homes Are Far Apart	9/11
F.	Issue 38: When Nonrelatives Live in the Home	9/12
G.	Issue 39: Reinvolving a Previously Absent Parent	9/13
H.	Issue 40: Driving and Owning a Car, Motorcycle, or Off-Road Vehicle	9/15
I.	Issue 41: International Travel and Passports	9/16
J.	Issue 42: Military Service	9/17
K.	Issue 43: Allowing Underage Marriage	9/18
		Part III	Beyond Your Parenting Agreement
	10	Child Support, Alimony, and Jointly Owned Property
A.	Understanding Child Support	10/2
B.	Understanding Alimony or Spousal Support	10/4
C.	Negotiating Child and Spousal Support	10/6
D.	Dividing Jointly Owned Property	10/7
	11	Making Mediation and Arbitration Work for You
A.	How Mediation Works	11/2
B. 	Why Mediation Works	11/2
C.	Proposing Mediation	11/3
D.	Understanding Basic Mediation Techniques	11/4
E.	Why Mediation Works in Very Difficult Cases	11/7
F.	What Mediators Don¿t Do	11/9
G.	Choosing Between Court-Ordered and Private Mediation	11/9
H.	When the Mediator Makes a Recommendation to the Court	11/10
I.	Custody Evaluations	11/11
J.	Choosing a Mediator	11/11
K.	Preparing for Mediation	11/12
L.	If You Can¿t Reach an Agreement	11/13
M.	Alternatives to Mediation	11/13
	12	Dealing With Changes in Your Agreement
A.	Why Changes Are Necessary¿And How to Handle Them	12/2
B.	When You Are the One Initiating Change	12/3
C.	When You Are the One Responding to a Request for Change	12/4
D.	When Tensions Are Running High	12/5
E.	What to Do After You Negotiate the Changes	12/5
	13	Understanding Your Children¿s Needs
A.	Strategies for Your Children at Any Age	13/2
B.	Strategies for Your Children at Different Ages and Developmental Stages	13/5
C.	Strategies for Children With Special Needs	13/8
	14	Multiracial, Multicultural, and International Families
A.	Accommodating Differences in Child-Rearing Practices	14/2
B.	Encouraging Children to Celebrate the Traditions of Both Parents	14/2
C.	Sorting Out the Role of Power Within the Family	14/3
D.	Working Within the American Legal System	14/3
E.	Deciding Whether Another Country Has Authority Over Parenting (Custody) Issues	14/4
	15	Nontraditional Families
A.	What Are Nontraditional Families?	15/2
B.	The Legal Relationship of a Nontraditional Parent and His or Her Children	15/2
C.	Recognizing the Nontraditional Parent¿s Role	15/6
D.	Resolving Conflict in a Way That Meets Your Family¿s Needs	15/6
E.	Creating New Relationships After the Divorce or Separation	15/7
	16	State and Federal Laws Affecting Child Custody
A.	Custody and Visitation	16/2
B.	Best Interests of the Child	16/3
C.	Mediation	16/7
D.	Interference With Custody	16/9
E.	Interstate Custody Disputes	16/10
F.	International Custody Disputes	16/10
G.	Custody and the IRS	16/11
	17	Help Beyond the Book
A.	Researching Legal Issues	17/3
B.	Researching Nonlegal Issues	17/5
C.	Research on the World Wide Web	17/5
D.	Finding Professionals Who Can Help	17/6
E.	Additional Resources	17/10
F.	Bibliography	17/12
	A	Appendix: Tear-Out Forms
Worksheet 1: Describe Your Child
Worksheet 2: Describe Your Relationship With Your Child
Worksheet 3: Adding the Details
Worksheet 4: Checklist of Issues for Your Parenting Agreement
Parenting Agreement
	I	Index

Library of Congress Subject Headings for this publication:

Custody of children -- United States -- Popular works.
Divorce settlements -- United States -- Popular works.